Feeding your Toddler
Want to help your toddler develop healthy eating habits? Offer him only healthy food. There's no reason he needs sweets or junk food at all. But even more important than what he puts in his mouth is his basic relationship with food. You want him to be in charge of his own eating, so how much he eats is not a loaded issue.
The basic rule of thumb on feeding your toddler:
You choose what foods he eats.
He chooses how much he eats, and how.
Why? Because each of us is born with inner signals that tell us how much we need to eat. When we override our children's innate knowledge, we handicap them for life, and set them up to be unable to regulate their own eating. Don't fight about food. Don't obsess about how much she eats. Toddlers don't need much. Many of them eat a lot one day and very little the next. Kids don't starve themselves.
Your goal? To give him a sense of control over his food, which will eliminate power struggles and later eating disorders. At the same time, of course, you want what he eats to be healthy.
Your strategy? Wait as long as possible before introducing sweets. Offer a variety of healthy foods at each meal. Let him feed himself. And if your toddler is anything like mine, use a splat mat, and dunk him in the bath after each meal!
What about snacks? Toddlers' little stomachs need numerous smallish meals throughout the day. That means snacks, but it doesn't ever mean unhealthy food. The best toddler snacks are simply smaller portions of food you would be happy to see them eat at a meal: healthycrackers with cheese or peanut butter, cut up fruit, soup, hard boiled eggs, yogurt.
Many toddlers are too busy during the day to eat enough and ask for food at bedtime. This can drive a parent around the bend, unless you build a bedtime snack into the schedule – which also often helps kids settle down and sleep better. You can combine it with the bedtime story if you’re short on time.
Worried about a picky eater?
Most toddlers go through a picky stage. Don't make extra food for them at dinner. Just serve a variety of healthy foods and let them decide what to try. If your dinner isn't toddler-friendly -- if, heaven forbid, all the food is touching, for instance -- then put some simple extras on the table, such as cheese slices, hard-boiled egg, or vegies with ranch dressing for dipping. Eventually ALL kids come to enjoy the foods they've seen their parents eat.
